THERE ARE NO PERFECT FAMILIES! Let me say that again: THERE ARE NO PERFECT FAMILIES! OK, now that we understand that, let’s dive in and see what God’s Word has to say on this subject.

Proverbs 6:20-22 says: “My son, keep your father’s commands and do not forsake your mother’s teaching. Bind them upon your heart forever; fasten them around your neck. When you walk, they will guide you; when you sleep, they will watch over you; when you awake, they will speak to you.”

What does that mean? It means that teens need to uphold the wisdom of mom and dad. Parents may just have experiences that give them a better perspective on life, and teens would do well to listen to parents’ advice.

Ephesians 6:2, 3 says: “Honor your father and mother” – which is the first commandment with a promise – “that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.” (Also see Exodus 20:12, Deuteronomy 5:16)

I love this verse because it gives me a reason to say to my kids, “I brought you into this world, and I can take you out of it.” I know, old joke and not funny. This verse gives us a couple of nuggets for teens and parents. Both sides need to “honor” each other. Parents, it’s not just the job of kids to honor us. Teens will understand this better if we demonstrate honor to them. Give them space, and let them know you want to listen to what they have to say. This starts at an early age, way before the teen years. Do the work early so you can reap the harvest later.

Proverbs 30:17 says: “The eye that mocks a father, that scorns obedience to a mother, will be pecked out by ravens of the valley, will be eaten by the vultures.”

Bedtime story for your son or daughter:
“Now listen little guy or girl, Daddy wants to tell you a bedtime story. If you make fun of me, the ravens are going to fly in your window and peck out your eye while you try to sleep tonight. Love ya — sweet dreams!”

Bottom line: Don’t mock your father, and don’t scorn the obedience of your mom!